Would a Relocation do you Good?

“Should I stay or should I go now? If I go there will be trouble … and if I stay it will be double…” – The Clash

Ideally someone you know may be looking to move overseas. Surveys show that pretty much everyone knows at least one person who’s moved overseas, purchased property overseas, or is now considering it. I’m sure you do too. Knowing the lay of the land you are planning to move to is an important thing. It can save a ton of costs and headaches in the relocation process. An educated woman is the best expat But the real issue facing people thinking of moving overseas is this: How do we become an educated traveler without investing a lot of time and money? As the saying goes, “Good judgment comes with experience, but experience comes from bad judgment.”
Living an international lifestyle is very different from living domestic. The kinds of creature comfort things we know for sure at home, in many cases, just simply don’t apply offshore. So how do we get it right? How do we know what questions we should be asking? How can we come to know what we don’t know?

 Is it time for you to fish or cut bait with where you live? The following assessment should give you a good start in realizing if you’d be better off staying where you are, or moving on to greener pastures. These questions assume that there isn’t anything major that’s currently preventing you from relocating, like a sick parent who needs your care.

Rate yourself on each of the following statements on a scale of 1 to 3:

1 = Doesn’t Apply     2 = Somewhat Applies     3 = Definitely Applies

  1. You don’t feel like you fit in where you currently live. ________
  2. You’ve found it hard to meet and connect with people where you’re living. ________
  3. You hate the weather where you are. ________
  4. You’re feeling drawn to a particular city or area of this country, or foreign country, and are dreaming about what it would be like to live there (either awake or asleep). ________
  5. You are drawn to living in topography different from your current one. (For example, do you live in a flat area but love the mountains; live inland but pine for the ocean?) ________
  6. You’re experiencing health issues where you live, which may include seasonal affective disorder (SAD), allergies, or problems with the heat. ________
  7. Things just don’t seem to be clicking where you’re currently living and you don’t know why.________
  8. You’re feeling a strong pull to try living in another culture, whether short-term or long-term (Native American, Thai, etc.). ________
  9. Your values are different from most people living in your community. ________
  10. The place where you’re currently living is draining, versus giving you energy. ________
  11. The lifestyle of your dreams would be difficult to achieve where you live now. ________
  12. You’d really like to move, but you’re afraid to do so. ________

Now, total your points to determine your score. Total score: _______

Next, find your score in the table below, then read the corresponding interpretation.


If your score was a 3 for any of the following questions: 1, 2, 3, 9, 10, 11 or 12, I recommend that you take a closer look at why you’re living where you are.

Three additional key questions to ask yourself:

  1. Imagine you are 100 years old, in your rocking chair, looking back at your life. What would you regret more: staying where you are or moving when you felt the urge or calling?
  2. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you moved someplace new right now? What would you do then? Write it down. Could you handle that?
  3. What’s the best thing that could happen if you moved someplace new right now? Is it worth the potential downside?

So what will it be? Will you stay or will you go?


Barbara Brady


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